CHAPTER XVI
AN INTERVIEW ON MARRIAGE
Two or three days after the Shredded Wheat episode,
there called on me a pleasant lady who introduced herself
as a friend of an old friend of mine. She wanted to ask
me some questions; and as I was just going in to lunch and
had an engagement immediately afterwards, I asked this lady
to lunch with me. It appeared that a man and woman in the
city had announced the completion of a five or ten years'
"trial marriage." Would I say what I thought about this
couple, and about "trial marriages" in general? I have
always been willing to say what I thought about any subject,
so I explained that while I was not an advocate of "trial
marriages," it was apparent that this couple were sincere, and
one must respect people who stood by their convictions in
the face of prejudice and ridicule.
I went on to talk to this lady on the subject of modern marriages. I cannot, of course, state word for word what I said, but I know my views, which have not changed in any way, so I can practically duplicate the interview.
In any competitive society, woman is necessarily condemned to a position of inferiority by the burdens of maternity; so, either she has to suppress her love-nature and her desire for children, or she must find some man who will take care of her. In a society whose standards are pecuniary, that is to say, whose members are esteemed in proportion to the amount of their worldly possessions, the average woman is forced into a mercenary attitude toward love and marriage. In weighing the various men who offer themselves, she will generally have to balance money against love; and the more corrupt the society becomes—that is to say, the greater the economic inequality—the more mercenary will become the attitude of women, the more they will weigh money in the balance, and the less they will weigh love. This is particularly true of the older women, who know the world and the ways of the world, and who seek to control the marriages made by their young.
In the course of this abstract discourse I gave some in-
