Chapter 16
THE NATURE OF SURRENDER
When the frigid woman, using the methods described in
this section, has divested herself of the destructive fears and
false convictions that have been left over from her childhood;
and when, in all honesty, she is able to view her husband
with new eyes, knowing him to be the hard-beset but loving
human being he is rather than an abstract power she had
conjured up in his image—when these things are achieved,
a profound change begins to take place within her.
This change is not a direct product of her conscious will. Forces which have the character of a tide suddenly freed of long-standing barricades now begin to move irresistibly within her. She feels a new potentiality inside, intimations of an emotional richness she had not dared dream of.
When such a process is loosed within a woman, we say that she is ready to surrender; that, indeed, surrender has already started within her. What does this mean?
It means, in the broadest sense, that at long last she is prepared to become a woman. It means that she is ready, indeed anxious, to yield to her biological and psychological destiny. She has ceased to fear her real role, mentally,
