for she came from a different section of the country and could spend only that amount of time in New York City. We worked quickly, and she had been able to surface the hostilities to and misapprehensions about men that had plagued her grown-up life. I had been able also to give her a thumbnail sketch of the problems and changes she might encounter within herself in the future—much as I have described them here. Within six months I had a letter from her. It described the step-by-step process I have depicted: the change in her feelings toward her husband, the incredibly swift growth within her of the new and wonderful serenity. And then she had come to the point where she realized with her whole emotional being the miraculous nature of the female body and the feeling of power and glory that it gave her.
But [she wrote] this feeling of power was quickly followed by
an intense feeling of humility. I thought of how I held within
me, within my body, the power to bring him the greatest of
joys; or to deprive him of it. And then I realized the terrible
thing it would be to ever misuse this power. And now I felt really
for the first time, despite my former lip service to the idea, the
reason why marriage must be considered sacramental. The relationship
between husband and wife which results in the unsolvable
mystery of birth goes far beyond human understanding.
To participate in this mystery really requires a consecration by
both. Any lesser attitude toward it is like the laughter of mockery
in a holy place.
With this kind of acceptance of her central role, changes
now come rapidly to a woman. As she feels the unity of need
and goal between her husband and herself, any remaining
contentiousness leaves her. In the marriage, consensus now
becomes her aim. She is no longer afraid of losing an argument,
fearful that she will be forced to do something that is
repugnant or humiliating to her, for she realizes that to her
husband her welfare is the dearest of all things. And, con-
