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YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN IN SOCIETY
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woman. She can go anywhere, see anything. She can travel, stay in resort hotels and join in all the gaieties, go to the charity ball, to the Greater Liberty Under Protection theatre and opera, and take supper with a merry party at midnight, in a public restaurant, and ride home in a taxi-cab. She can take tea in a bachelor artist's studio. She is taken to the proper places, meets only the right people. At a dance, her chaperon may seek the acquaintances of desirable young men and introduce them to her young charge, when the unchaperoned girl is left to be a wall-flower. If she lacks beauty she is not neglected, and if she happens to be pretty and to have many admirers, such guardianship protects her from ill-natured gossip. No one dares to snub her and scandal cannot touch her. A good chaperon is worth more, socially, to a young girl than great beauty or fortune.

WHERE A CHAPERON IS NOT REQUIRED.

A professional woman, a working girl, or a student in business, and a society girl on a shopping trip or errand of charity is, also. They may properly do what they must do, and are protected by their work These Exceptions Prove the Rules and respected. But a girl should be careful not to meet young men "by accident," as the stories have it, in a gallery or store or library or on a lonely walk, and remain to talk with him for hours unless she wishes to be talked about. Much more liberty is allowed the young woman of twenty-five or more, than to the young girl of eighteen or twenty; and a single woman of mature age, especially if she be at the head of a father's or brother's house, has the dignity and privileges of a married woman. She receives a hostess and may properly chaperon young sisters and nieces. In traveling abroad, however, a single lady or widow will find her position much more agreeable if she is in the company of another lady or a married couple.

MANNERS FOR MEN IN SOCIETY.

A young man's manner towards the young women of his acquaintance are just as definitely understood. No gentleman calls upon any lady unless he has been asked to do so, or he brings a letter of introduction from a mutual friend, is taken to the house by an intimate friend or has previously been asked to dinner. He cannot pay