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in the fullest sense be a gentleman who is not one in manner. And you, who by birth and education, and the refinement which comes from abundance, have all the advantages of the best gentleman, should certainly be careful to add to these advantages, as with care you may, the grace of good manners/'
Generally our words must be pleasant in tone and agreeable to the ear of the listener. When a visitor comes to you, or when you happen to meet a person outside, you should try to lead the conversation with a smile, as, it is said, Sri Rama did who thereby acquired the distinctive name of "one who leads the conversation with a smile." Be careful that your meaning is clear and pleasantly expressed. In conversation never speak or ask about family calamities, of deaths in detail, and of other unpleasant topics. You should also not ask any person about his age, children.
