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CHARACTER OF MALE VISITORS.
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Instead of expecting to be always receiving attentions from gentlemen, there should be an effort made to reciprocate kind offices in every possible and proper way. The preference yielded, the attention offered, the generous self-denial made for your comfort, at the same time that it is accepted, should always be retained with an air that shows that you feel it to be a favor, and not a right to which you are entitled.


Chapter XV.

Character of the Men who are received as Visitors.

A young lady always has it in her power to limit her visiting acquaintances to those whose characters she fully approves. And this she owes it to herself to do.

In forming an estimate of character, a young lady will always find some difficulty, because she must be ignorant of a young man’s habits, if bad, except so far as a knowledge of them happens to come to her through common report. To a very considerable extent, however, the in-