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THE BETROTHAL OF THE GIRLS.
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May Heaven help them, until the day shall dawn when the mothers of India, exulting over their daughters—over each and all of them—as joyously as they have ever done over their sons, shall delight to direct their husband's loving attention to their female children, as the Christian poet has expressed it for them:

“O look on her, see how full of life,
Of strength, of bloom, of beauty, and of joy!
How like to me, how like to thee, when gentle,
For then we are all alike: is it not so?
Mother, and sire, and babe, our features are
Reflected in each other.
Look! how she laughs and stretches out her arms,
And opens wide her bright eyes upon thine.
To hail her father, while her little form
Flutters as winged with joy. Talk not of pain!
The childless seraphs well might envy thee
The pleasures of a parent! Bless her!
As yet she has no words to thank thee, but
Her heart will, and mine own too.”

It seems a rapid transition, from describing the early childhood of the female sex in India, to speak of betrothal, yet the intervening space is not very extensive. The Hindoo Shasters say that a girl is marriageable when she is seven years of age, but that she may wait till she is ten years old. The term “marriage” is used in their writings to include betrothal as well as what we mean by the term. Reserved for a husband is, in their view, almost as sacred as being resigned to his care.

As soon as a little girl has reached her fifth birthday her parents begin anxiously to seek a marriage settlement for her. Their great concern henceforth relates to her nuptials. They would consider it a decided reproach if she saw her twelfth natal day without being at least betrothed. The whole matter is held in their own hands. The poor girl has no choice or voice in her own destiny—all is arranged without consulting her views or affections in any way whatever.

The lawgiver Menu has laid the obligations heavily upon the father, so that he cannot escape the public sentiment. Menu ordains as follows: “Reprehensible is the father who gives not his